OldandOutofState:What is the last thing you did for the first time?
Me:Certainly not "block people outside my age range who send me shitty copy-paste messages without even bothering to read my profile."
Regrettably, I do that all the fucking time.

Apparently iOS 7 doesn’t actually truly block calls; it just sends calls directly to voicemail/ doesn’t alert you to calls from blocked people/ doesn’t show messages from them.

So I might have some voicemails to insta-delete (hopefully not), but otherwise my phone is a safe-space.

My Stupid Crisis

The ex who broke up with me six weeks ago, it turns out broke up with me so he could hook up with another girl he’d already lined up.
Broke up with her ten days ago, started trying to get back into contact with me basically a week later.
"I love you, I miss you, I keep thinking about how much happier I’d be if I were with you. I wasn’t happy with her. It just didn’t feel right."

AND I AM FUCKING SICK.
He LIED to me about the reasons for the breakup — I had asked him if there was someone else, and he said “no,” — and the reasons he’s giving me for leaving her are the same reasons (among others) he gave every time he broke up with me.
I feel nauseous.
I cannot. believe. this guy.

Like, I called him to ask him about her, because he mentioned that he’d “dated” her, but didn’t mention that (a) they’d had sex, or (b) that she was one of the primary reasons he broke up with me.
And I’m not mad at her. It’s not her fault he’s a fucking dog.
But then he tells me that she ASKED HIM if he was “done” with me. Like, were we REALLY over. And he told her we were.
And then he started trying to get in touch with me a week after he dumped her.

And he hadn’t spoken to her since the break-up until today. He thinks they’re going to be friends.

Which makes me SUPER uncomfortable because she’s the girl he DUMPED me for, and his track record of staying broken up with the girls he breaks up with is Zero-Fucking-Percent.

Part of me wants to message her and let her know that he tried to get back with me, so she knows what kind of person he is, but a more rational part of me knows that would get me branded “crazy ex” and she probably wouldn’t take my warning seriously until it was too fucking late.

So I called him to cancel, and he was a pissy little shit about it — he doesn’t care that I don’t want to see him, but he’s so FUCKING hurt that I’m not 100% over the way he treated me and that I don’t trust him. Like, I gave him every opportunity to try and save face, and he had literally nothing to say. He said literally no words.

I am so fucking stressed by this whole fucking experience. I wish he had just fucking left me alone. 

I AM HAVING A STUPID CRISIS IS THERE ANYONE ONLINE WHO CAN TALK TO ME

onlinedating-adventures:

Ugh I had a message thread going with this dude — pleasant guy, decent messages (only like 5 messages total in the thread so far. w/e) — but his last message isn’t one that really begs a response/that I feel any urgency to respond to. He seems kind of bland? Idk I’m just not into it.

But like every time I pop over to OKC to see what’s up, he’s visited my profile again. It weirds me out when people do that. I don’t like it.

UGH HE SENT A FOLLOW UP MESSAGE TO ASK ME OUT.
NO.
IF I AM NOT RESPONDING TO YOUR MESSAGE, ASSUME I DON’T WANT TO DRIVE 30 MILES TO MEET YOU FOR COFFEE.

Ugh I had a message thread going with this dude — pleasant guy, decent messages (only like 5 messages total in the thread so far. w/e) — but his last message isn’t one that really begs a response/that I feel any urgency to respond to. He seems kind of bland? Idk I’m just not into it.

But like every time I pop over to OKC to see what’s up, he’s visited my profile again. It weirds me out when people do that. I don’t like it.

HowDoMessage:Hey there
Me:Such message. Very nope.
Ex-Update

Another non-online dating post, but, again, this is the dating blog and I guess this is relevant:

The ex I hadn’t spoken to in six weeks, who messaged me while I was offline the other day, messaged me again while I was online last night, and now we’re going for coffee tomorrow.

Basically the situation is that he’s really, really sorry about all the bullshit he put me through, he misses me, he wants to be back together, blah blah blah (remember that time when he said he “just wanted to say hello”?).
I’ve been in this situation with him so. many. times. and I know I shouldn’t be going to see him, but this guy has always been my blind spot.
I’ve cut off contact with people for far, FAR less than what he’s said and done, and yet, I am meeting him for coffee tomorrow to discuss these matters further.

As of now, I’m not planning to deactivate my OKC account, because (1) we aren’t officially back together, and may not end up getting back together, and (2) if we get back together, I might want to try being less monogamous than we have been in the past.
So we’ll see how things go.
 

My Profile:

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food:

[book], [book], [book], Lord of the rings (except the second half of Two Towers), [book]

[movie], [movie], Lord of the Rings (including the entire Two Towers), [movie], [movie], [movie]

Message:

Lol what’s wrong with the battle of Helm’s Deep and the Ents???

Hmmmmmm I don’t know. I never said I didn’t like those things, because those are both from the first half of the novel.

I AM DEEPLY OFFENDED BY THE NUMBER OF PEOPLE WHO COME INTO MY INBOX TO ASK ABOUT THE SECOND HALF OF THE TWO TOWERS. 
THEY ALL ASSUME I HAVE SOMETHING AGAINST CLIMACTIC BATTLE SCENES OR SOMETHING.
NO.
I HAVE SOMETHING AGAINST FRODO, SAM, AND GOLLUM’S FAMILY VACATION.
BLOODY HELL.

When a guy sends you a message with the same timestamp as his visit to your profile...
ShortAttentionSpan:Hey, how's your night going?
Me:Yeah it's not great people keep messaging me without bothering to read my profile lol